西方资深奇迹课程教师，着有《宽恕十二招》、《无条件的爱》等，奇迹信息中心已发行中译本，由周玲莹小姐翻译，若水润稿。(最近又有《真正的快乐》周玲莹译,转发在:爱之书)
摘要: 让别人去寻找他们自己的路，你只需照料自己的生活
转自:奇迹课程中文部 Paul Ferrini 专栏 2006/4/6
摘自Paul Ferrini, 周玲莹译 若水修订
不必替别人作决定，那会使你偏离了自己生活的焦点。让别人去寻找他们自己的路，然后支持他们、鼓励他们、为他们喝釆欢呼。不必认为只有你知道怎样做才是对他们好，你其实什么都不知道。
Don't make decisions for other people. That will just take the focus away from your life. Let others find their own way. Support them. Encourage them. Cheer them on. But don't think you know what's good for them. You don't know.
对别人负起不必要的责任时，你就是过度膨胀自己，反会削弱了自己，千万别这样做。你只需照料自己的生活，作自己的决定，把注意力放在你该注意的地方，聆听你的内在导引，尊重它，依它而行，全力以赴, 那已经够你忙一辈子了。
When you take inappropriate responsibility for others, you overextend and weaken yourself. Don't do that. Stay in your own life and make your own decisions. Put your attention where it belongs. Listen to your guidance, honor it, act on it, and be committed to it. That is a full time job.